Preface: This post was drafted on Sept.9, 2010. The whole thing is still true. It’s still something I think almost daily. Tonight I saw Voyage of the Dawn Treader with Reuben, and in the movie Lucy’s temptation is that she wants to be more beautiful-that she’s unhappy with what she’s been created to be. She wants to be someone different than who she really is, and when that part of the movie came, I was in awe that anyone had made a character just like me (because obviously not another girl experiences those same thoughts). So because of that, I feel like tonight I can post this.
Man oh man. Today has been a day of revelations. Like, the scary kind. The kind that bring tears and confusion, and frustration.
I keep thinking that I don’t like who I am. Some fairly average girl, with a hyper-sensitive sense of humor, who isn’t really good at a whole lot and who is the best at nothing. And all week Satan has attacked me with those thoughts. Thoughts that I’m not good enough. I’m not good enough for the friends I have, or for the boyfriend I have, or for the job I have, or for the responsibilities I have (ok, so maybe I’ve gone overboard with the whole responsibilities part).
I can’t put my finger on it quite yet.
I’m admitting some pretty embarrassing stuff here. Seriously, I think I’d rather admit anything than the fact that I always thought that when a boy finally liked me that I’d magically know that I was beautiful just the way I am and that I’d finally be happy with my personality and all of the weird things that come along with that. Instead, I find myself 3 weeks (or 6 months) into a relationship with this incredible guy, and I still can’t seem to see that I have anything worth wanting in a friend or a girlfriend, or a daughter, or a cousin, or a garbage woman.
I can’t think of a single woman who I know looks in the mirror every morning and sees herself as sacred. Beautiful. Exquisite. Possessing something that is Perfect.
I’ve spent 24 years looking for that beauty to be realized when I become thinner or when someone else believes it about me first. I’ve waited for men to tell me that I was beautiful or that there was something quite Perfect about me. The thing is, I’ve heard it over and over from people, and I still haven’t believed it. I always have an excuse. “Well he’s my dad, he has to think that.” “He’s just saying that because he can tell I’m having a bad day.” “He doesn’t think that- if he did he’d want to date me.” The list could go on for days.
I’ve never been content with my personality or my appearance. To be honest, I think I thought I’d finally believe it when a guy wanted to date me. I was wrong. Instead I spend my time trying to figure out why the heck someone would want to spend their time dating me when there are 4 million other girls who are several pants sizes smaller, have better hair, and are probably smarter and more emotionally stable than I am (They probably are not as funny, but I mean that’s a given). I spend my time wondering exactly when he’ll realize who he’s dating and that he clearly was not thinking straight.
Anyway the point of all of that is this: I’m not finding life in Christ, but in how I am valuing myself, instead. I’m not content with who He created me to be. In short, most days I look in the mirror and my thoughts scream “God, you obviously made a mistake when You made me.”
But that’s not true.
When I take every thought captive, and remember that I am beautiful, I am exquisite, I do, in fact, possess something that is Perfect- more perfect that I can seem to comprehend, I am sacred, I am created by the living God, I become not only content with who I am, but excited about how I get to be used by the King of everything.